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10 REASONS PEOPLE ARE UNMOTIVATED … AND, HOW TO CHANGE IT.

Excerpts from Psychology Today and Harvard Business Review

How many times have you said to yourself that you’re going to do something but you end up not following through with it because you weren’t motivated enough? You end up checking off that workout, or call to a friend, visit or shopping trip off your to-do list without even getting close to completing it. I think we’ve all been there at some point, right?

You are not alone, millions of other people are also unmotivated at some point. We will look into the reasons why we will have a lack of motivation every now and then and look at ways of reversing this trend so you can end up motivated enough to conquer the world (maybe your corner…).

1. THEY ONLY SEE THE BAD SIDE OF THINGS THAT HAPPEN.

Normally, the unmotivated individuals have a very pessimistic view on their chances of success.

Psychologists have labeled this as having a low level of self-efficacy, which is the innate ability to influence the outcome of a project or venture. There are lots of myths about how to fix this, such as writing down your goals and simply visualizing success. The latter is unproductive as it wastes a lot of energy on daydreaming! Think about the last time you attended a seminar that focused on motivation. The “hype” or excitement lasted about 2 days after the event, right?

WHAT TO DO?

The secret to staying motivated is to honestly audit your skills and the challenges that lie ahead. Sometimes a difficult goal is useful in spurring a person on to do better. We persist because the challenge is personally rewarding.

2. THEY FORGET THE BENEFITS AND REWARDS.

Most unmotivated people get distracted by a challenge. They think of the hours of work that faces them in achieving a task or objective. They forget to think of the long-term rewards and benefits, which is an essential element in motivation. Reframe it.

WHAT TO DO?

Every time you don’t feel motivated, visualize the rewards you’re trying to get. Celebrate small wins often, so you know rewards and benefits are not that far away from you.

3. THEY SET UNREALISTIC GOALS.

In the business world, having stretch goals is often advocated as the path to success since it will increase motivation. Researchers and psychologists have recently found that this is actually false.[2] Demotivation may set in because the problems are just too complex and unnerving.

What to do?

A much better approach is to break down projects into smaller bites, where one can see results in a much shorter space of time. This compartmentalization will give greater motivation, encouraging the individual to see a project through to the end.

4. TIN THE DARK ABOUT MINI-HABITS.

When they think about getting what they want, they want to do something big once and never again. So when they fail to do so, they feel defeated and unmotivated. What they don’t know is that to achieve greatness, it’s about the small things they do every day.

WHAT TO DO?

There’s a great book I’ve read; it’s Stephen Guise’s Mini Habits: Smaller Habits, Bigger Results. The concept is a simple one to help with demotivation.

The idea is to start with one mini habit at a time and gradually progress. This could be walking up a flight of stairs a day, eating one less doughnut or writing a paragraph – if you have writer’s block. The idea is to leverage the power of personal habits in reaching lifestyle goals.

5. THEY DO NOT SIEZE OPPORTUNITIES.

Have you noticed how demotivated people often tell you that they’ve never had a lucky break? The truth is that they never sought out opportunities that would give them the chance of success, wealth and happiness.

The secret is that opportunities are out there, just waiting to be taken. They are not simply given to you on a silver plate. There is always a little work involved:) Understatement.

WHAT TO DO?

Seize every opportunity and take the risk. Learn how to step out of your comfort zone here. Remember, you will never be ready, so do it anyway!

6. THEY DON’T WANT TO WORK HARDER.

The tendency is to consider the payoff before making the effort. They want immediate gratification before persisting and persevering. Access to the Internet at work will distract them further. One study has found that unmotivated employees are probably the majority (of the 64%) who waste time on social media at work.[

WHAT TO DO?

Even the most talented person works hard to get what they want. Work hard is better than talent, always.

7. THEY BLAME OTHERS.

It is always somebody else’s fault when they did not get that promotion. It’s not their fault that the marriage ended on the rocks. It was their partner’s fault, of course.

The fact is that you cannot control what other people do or the way they think. Recognizing that it was mostly your fault will help you analyze what went wrong, helping you avoid that pitfall the next time. Once you have done that, you will be better motivated to move on.

WHAT TO DO?

Take responsibility for what happened to you. When you realize you have complete responsibility for your life, you become completely free.

“A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.” — John Burroughs

Learn to stop complaining and start to take responsibility for your life.

8. THEY DON’T MANAGE THEIR TIME.

There are lots of ways to manage time better but unmotivated people tend to be time-wasters. They cannot schedule very efficiently and always procrastinate.

Time is elastic. Stretch it so that you can get more out of it. Once you conquer the time management problem, you will become more motivated because you can praise yourself for achieving what most people find really difficult. Recognizing your achievements is a great way to stay motivated.

WHAT TO DO?

The best way to stay motivated, regarding time, is to repeat to yourself that you are the only one who can control your time. Nobody or nothing else can do that for you.

9. THEY DON’T BELIEVE THEY HAVE TALENT.

When people think of all the talents and creativity they lack, they block themselves off and demotivation takes hold.

However, when they concentrate on the actual skills, talents and qualities they possess, they become much more motivated.

Negative thoughts will drag you down in a horrible spiral. Positive thoughts help you soar above the crowd. STAY positive.

WHAT TO DO?

Believe in yourself and the talents you have. If you lack confidence in yourself, here’s a Step-By-Step Guide on How to Be More Confident.

10. TOO MUCH SOCIAL MEDIA.

Research on students’ use of social media has pointed out that there is a reduction in creativity, less practice in writing skills and an increase in multi-tasking for these students. All these factors have contributed to lower grades and poor academic performance. This may be one reason why many become demotivated.

Everybody is prone to being less motivated by the appearance or success of others, flaunting their carefully curated images on Instagram. As the image so vividly illustrates, maturity comes when you stop posting every detail of your life on Facebook or Instagram.[

WHAT TO DO?

Take a break with social media. Learn how to break the habit of endlessly sticking to social media here: 5 Psychological Reasons You Are Addicted to Facebook and 5 Ways to Break the Habit

Another great way to stay in the motivated fast lane is to prepare for obstacles and setbacks before they even occur. This is one of the best ways of fighting back the demotivation demon.

I’D LIKE TO HEAR FROM YOU…

Out of these many reasons why people are unmotivated, which one fits your case most? What have you done to change it? How did it work?

Know your reason why you don’t feel motivated and tackle its root cause. Stop procrastinating, take your first step to make a small change. Make that small change your daily habit and you will be staying motivated all the time!

XO, Rosanna


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